About Me
HI, I’M GIRISH PANIKER.
Twenty years of corporate life, part of it in sales and marketing and part in training and development made me think, what am I spending my time and life on? I was busy and had no time for me or my family. A feeling of incompleteness and noncongruence crept in me. I quit my job and started my own training and consulting under the name of Shaping Tree in 2016. It gave me freedom of time and choice, though the journey was tough. In all my training sessions, I realized an important lacuna faced by all the leaders. They were able to apply the communication skills, leadership skills, emotional management skills, etc. at their workplace, but failed with their children. It meant that even if you are successful at your job managing a large team and driving performance, the same techniques need not be appropriate at home. Childrens’ needs are different and they need a different approach.
Deep within I wanted to make a positive impact in the lives of people and I realized that if I could help and coach parents’ to give their children the best childhood, then most of the issues like anxiety, depression, aggression, suicides, and violence could be reduced. I believe that if the family is peaceful, then the society will be peaceful, and the entire nation would be better.
I equipped myself by learning human behavior and how children think act and learn by attending webinars, conferences, and getting certified in NLP, Coaching, Counseling, Cognitive Behavior Therapy, and Enneagram.
All that I learned I applied it at home and found a significant difference in the way my two daughters responded.
My purpose was grounded and I like to call myself a Parent Alchemist. I began enjoying what I did. Often parenting is taken for granted or neglected by most people. It is only when they realize that things are going out of hand that they reach out for help.
I am now coaching hundreds of parents to become a coach and counselors to their children.
The workshops, courses, and personalized coaching sessions have helped rebuild numerous homes with the joy and playfulness that existed when the kids were young.
When we can let go of our past experiences and fearful anxieties of the future, we see the world from a new perspective
When we work together, I will show you how to let go of your anxieties, fear, and limiting beliefs so that you, too, can flow into this energetic state of possibilities. Are you ready?
- I grew up in a place called Hubli In Karnataka. We lived in the Railway quarters. Life in the quarters taught us equality as all lived in similar houses and all parents were in the government service. I learned that to be happy and enjoy life you need not have anything. Just be and enjoy the moment.
- The downside of growing up in the same place for 16 years made me too attached to the place and my friends. My dad’s unexpected transfer when I was 16 years old came as a shocker. I could not bear the thought of missing Hubli and my friends. However, I had to move with my family to a new city Vijayawada. That allowed me to experience a new city, new people, new culture, new language, and expand my horizon.
- My father retired when I was in my final year degree and my parents and my sister moved to our native in Kerala and I had to stay alone. It was then that I realized the unconditional love of my mom, the affection and concern of my dad, and the companionship of my sister. I had taken each member for granted never valued them when they were with me.
- The first job taught me the realities of life away from home. Everything was on condition, very unlike home. You either perform or perish at the workplace and have no place for tantrums like in my home. How I wished I could have been more considerate at home.
- Marriage taught me that two different individuals will differ and the more you try to make the other person accept your views the relationship deteriorates. The sooner you understand and accept the differences, the more conflicts cease to exist.
- My two daughters taught me to be spontaneous, to be in the present moment, to be cautious of my responses to every action of theirs. I learned to grow up as a father as they were naturally growing up.