Parents many a times act insanely with their kids. Many consider this behavior as justified due to parental power or parental stress. But, no one seems to care about the child’s feelings when parents act in such ways.
It was one of those most horrible days in Ganesh’s life. He had a tough day at the office.
All of us do have these awful days, sometimes or the other.
The meeting with his boss was a one-sided affair, with his boss yelling from all sides and Ganesh at the receiving end. He wanted to went his feelings but had to stay mum, because the person on the other side was his boss. He kept blabbering in his head all that he wanted to shout out loud. To make matters worse, he had a splitting headache. He wanted to reach home and crash on the bed.
On his way back home, his mind was replaying the meeting with his boss.
The chaotic traffic made his condition even worse.
At home, his four-year-old bubbly daughter, Sunanda, was eagerly waiting for her dad to return from the office. Excited she was racing up and down waiting for him. She had made a pencil box with cardboard and was excited to show it to her dad when he returned. She waited for him at the door with the pencil box.
Ganesh usually reached home by around 6.30 PM. That day, it was 7 PM. He had not yet reached home. Sunanda kept waiting. Suddenly, she heard the sound of his Yamaha Rx100. She ran towards the stairs with her hand-made pencil box and jumped up to her dad and exclaimed, “See what I have made!.”
Ganesh was furious due to his bad day and also his head-ache. He lost his senses, took the pencil box from Sunanada’s hand, and threw it away. ” Don’t you know that I am tired after work? I have a severe headache, and you jump on me “?
Sunanda was left dumbstruck. She could not believe her father could do this. She wept uncontrollably with deep gasps. Her tears refused to stop. Her father was pulled into his issues that he forgot his role as a father. All he could see at that time was his problems, his tensions, and his headache.
Aren’t we are all guilty of this behavior sometimes in our lives?
Some of us gather our senses soon and manage the damage done. Many of us keep hurting our children unknowingly.
We never realize the blunders we have done till it is too late. By then, the relationship between the parent and child would have severed beyond repair.
We all can follow these simple tips to build great relationships with our children:
1) Do not react when you are angry.
2) Acknowledge the presence of your child, no matter how busy you are.
3) Do not hesitate to say sorry if you hurt your child.
Being empathetic with your kids and not reacting when in rage, can go a long way in parent-child relations. Nothing matters more to the child than the feeling that the parents are caring, loving, and understand them.
